Hello and welcome to the DesignLife blog where we discuss Holistic Beauty, Personal Development and a little bit of Magic!
relief. You do not need to jump from feeling depressed to feeling passionate and grateful and joyful, but you do need to take the first step. Look at your options and gravitate toward whatever you can do that will give allow you the alleviation of pain, discomfort or distress. Anything that offers even a slight feeling of reassurance and relaxation is ten times better than anything that doesn't feel good at all.
You needn't do anything drastic, like quit your job or divorce your partner - you might think, at first, that doing this will make you feel better, but sometimes taking steps that are too big and that you are not ready for will inevitably causes more harm than good. No need to jump ship, but do find a way, any way, to feel even slightly better. Small actions accumulate into big changes.
Abraham-Hicks writes about the 'Stream of Life'. This is a stream that constantly flows and the problem is that most people think we need to swim against the current. We are taught that life is difficult and things that are easy are not worth doing. The real heroes are the ones who have suffered and it takes time and hard work and a lot of sacrifice to get to where we want to be. Of course this is true, if you make it to be so. You can swim upstream all you want and through your hard work and determination you will probably get what you set out to achieve, sometimes. However that's going about it the hard way. If only you would let go of preconceptions and expectations and the "have to's" and the "I should's" and you allow yourself to be carried by the flow of the water downstream, you meet with all of the joy and achievement of everything that you have always wanted.
I understand that you are met with contrast every single day - you certainly know what you don't want. You don't want to be stuck in this dead end job. You don't want to go to bed alone every night. You don't want to weigh a much, or as little, as you currently are. You don't want to live a limited life. But you see, the beauty of contrast is, is that it reveals to you what you do want. If there was no darkness, we would never see the stars.
It is because you have known sadness that you so clearly know that you want joy. It is because you have known defeat that you so clearly know that you want to win. If life has caused you to want something, it is sure to come true, if you allow it. Often, however, we hold on so tightly to what IS that we stunt the natural growth of our experience. You focus so much on what it is you do not want and all it does is strengthen your knowing of what you do want, but you don't take your attention off of what you DON'T want long enough for what you DO want to flow into your experience.
Stubborn bunch, aren't we?
Wherever you are right now, find a way to feel relief. You don't decide to go on holiday and then in the blink of an eye you are there and then in the blink of an eye it's done - no. How many times have you read or heard the phrase, life is not about the destination, it's about the journey. Do we really understand the meaning behind it? I don't think so, because if we did, we would have a little more faith and a lot more fun. When you set your GPS to take you to a specific destination, it might take you a few hours or maybe even a day or two to get there. Sometimes you take a wrong turn, but the GPS always redirects you and gets you back on track. Sometimes you stop to have lunch or admire the scenery. That doesn't mean you aren't going to get to your predetermined destination eventually.
Life is not about the destination, it's about the journey. So why do choose to live the hard way? Why do we swim upstream? You can swim upstream all you want and through your hard work and determination you will probably get what you set out to achieve, sometimes. But it's so much easier and MORE FUN to swim downstream. Swimming downstream doesn't mean giving up or taking the easy way out, stop trying to justify your strenuous means. There is no good reason to do it the hard way.
I can write metaphorically until my fingers turn blue, but I know what you are thinking - what does this mean? What does it mean to "swim downstream"? It doesn't necessarily mean that you will wake up tomorrow morning next to the love of your life, with millions in the bank and your dream body (although it might happen!). Swimming downstream means that wherever you are right now, you find a way, any way, to feel a little bit better. If that means taking the day off, take the day off. If that means taking a nap, take a nap. If that means visiting someone who makes you smile or watching your favorite comedy, do that.
In the next post, I will share more about how to feel better. In the mean time, just breathe and find relief. Relax.
All my love! And remember - YOU are The Creator.
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