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We are taught to be people who conform to behaviour that has been approved without our consent. The intention with which this has been decided is unknown to me, but what I do know is that you cannot have a healthy, growing society if the members thereof do not have the right to think for themselves.
We can't, however, blame those in power for keeping us in the dark. Most of us choose not to think for ourselves, because letting others think for us seems so much easier. We are terrified of the infinite depth of our own minds, but only because we do not understand it. It seems so much easier to hand our power to think and decide over to others - our parents, friends, the government, religion - because if something goes wrong we do not need to carry the burden of responsibility ourselves. It is so much easier to blame others than to accept accountability for our own thoughts and actions.
I am in no position to tell you otherwise though. I have no authority to tell you whether what you are doing is right or wrong. I believe that we all have authority over ourselves and if we choose to hand authority over to someone or some thing else, that decision in itself was made by you and you will live the by-products of your choice until you choose otherwise. But, if you have ever found yourself thinking that you want to be more, do more and have more, but you feel you cannot, you have given away your power. Unless you are okay with leading a life of mediocrity, shuffling around in the dark, or living up to the standards of others instead of living out your true potential and ultimate joy, you need to decide to get to know yourself a little more.
It is a commitment that takes time. And you cannot face yourself for the first time and expect nothing to change - there will be great change. First inside of you and then around you.
Tips& things to remember when you decide to get to know yourself:
- The journey is different for everyone. What works for someone else, won't necessarily work for you.
- There is no end. You don't wake up one morning and feel "Yes, I am complete, I know myself now."It's a continuous process.
- You don't have to be serious about it. The process is much quicker when you approach it with an open mind and a willingness to learn and have fun.
- You cannot judge yourself for anything you discover.
- Not everyone will understand you like you do.
- You cannot judge others if they don't think like you or act like you.
- The more questions you ask, the better.
- Accept that you don't need all of your questions answered right now.
- Not everyone in your life at the moment will stay with you on your journey (however, this is true whether you choose to take the journey of self-discovery or not)
There's a lot more I can share with you, however I won't make this post too long. What I would really like for you to understand, however, is that getting to know You (the REAL YOU, NOT the multiple masks you wear to please your parents, your friends and society) is the most thrilling and worthwhile adventure anyone can undertake.
"The only way to get what you really want, is to know what you really want. And the only way to know what you really want is to KNOW YOURSELF. And the only way to know yourself, is to BE YOURSELF. And the only way to be yourself is to listen to your heart."
- Mike Dooley
Don't be afraid of sitting in the silence. At first it may seem overwhelming, because you haven't really listened to You for so long, YOU are bound to have a lot of questions and things to say. Just listen, you don't need to have the answers right now. But give yourself chance to speak. Take the time to get to know yourself.
Life could be better than you've ever thought possible. Enjoy the ride.
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